FORMER FBI AGENT TOLD ABOUT 8 SIGNS OF A PERSON WHO IS BETTER NOT TO TRUST
Be on the lookout.
Recently, former FBI agent Robin Draki told CNBC about the main signs of people who should not be trusted. Dreki had been working for internal intelligence for more than 20 years, and throughout his career, he had done nothing but expose people.
Now in the role of a retired special agent, he shared knowledge that will help you be more observant and alert. So, let's figure out what kind of behavior model a person should not be trusted with.
1. Someone who is always too categorical
Categorical statements with the words "always" or "never" are sometimes useful in political debates on television, when opponents are trying to win the support of viewers at any cost. However, in informal human communication, there are quite a few things that can be expressed so sharply.
For example, when someone says: "You never support me" or "you always criticize me" - this is a clear exaggeration.
People who say this are trying to manipulate the other person. Therefore, Dreki believes that they should not be trusted. He is sure that it is better to look at those who soften categorical statements with the words "usually", "in General", "often", "probably" and so on.
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2. Someone who downplays their achievements to show off
It happens that a person during a conversation finds a moment to tell a memorable story about himself solely for the purpose of self-promotion. However, when you start to praise him and encourage him for his bravery, generosity, selflessness, and so on, he always refuses, saying: "come on, it's nothing."
According to Dreki, such people should not be trusted, because in this way they try to show that you do not reach their level of coolness.
3. The one who discusses your mutual friends with you
When a person discusses others with you, they try to show that you are much better for them. He wants to gain your trust by criticizing your mutual acquaintances.
However, it is better not to trust such people, because you do not know what they will say in private with those friends about you.
4. Someone who can't stand criticism and is very well protected
According to Dreki, this feature is worth looking at especially carefully. A person who denies a problem begins to believe that it does not exist at all.
Such people reduce any criticism to a joke or even attack the interlocutor with a retaliatory accusation. Sometimes they use the technique of substitution of concepts or simply leave the conversation.
5. Someone who really likes to argue
And we are not talking about the exchange of rational ideas in which truth is born. It is necessary to beware of debaters who try to prove their case in their favorite ways, breaking into a shout and insulting each other.
Something similar can be seen on TV, especially when it comes to politics.
6. Someone who says too little or, conversely, too much
This usually happens because the person is trying to hide something or can't say anything sensible at all. In this way, it tries to replace the quantity of what is said with its quality.
7. Someone who doesn't know how to apologize
It's usually easy to apologize. It is enough to realize your guilt and say: "I am very sorry that this happened. Excuse me». However, it's very rare for you to hear an apology from someone you can't trust.
He will say something like, " Well, I did it because you did so-and-so then."
This happens because of the fear of losing the mask of confidence, internal perfectionism, arrogance, or other form of superiority. Such a person simply does not want to spoil their self-esteem, especially if they make high demands on everyone else.
8. Someone who smiles and gestures too unnaturally
Dreki argues that special attention should be paid to nonverbal communication, which can easily determine how uncomfortable a person feels from what he says.
If a person smiles sincerely, then he does it with his whole face, and not just strains certain of his muscles. In addition, the look says a lot — if a person takes it away, then you should not trust him.